Washington State Extended Families

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Extended family

I was one of those angry and confused grandparents that was mortified at my child's behavior and child raising strategies. Like many grandparents, I was bewildered at the possibility of having to raise children about the time I was ready to go out and be foot loose and fancy free. The system has a funny way of playing on that and anyone reading this should know what they are up against. It may take a minute of adjustment to figure out the role that you may want to play in this charade - but I warn you - don't take too long. Waiting several months before you realize that raising the child(ren) is what you are willing to do may result in being told "no" by CPS and the courts.

Then there is this problem of eligibility. Your choices are informal placement (doesn't include the state and is prior to removal), relative placement, third party custody (requires state approval), guadianship, foster parenting and adoption. If you have ever spanked, yelled, had drug/alcohol issues, have a police or other record, financial difficulties or any combination of items that could cause problems, know that they probably will. What is baffling is the number of seemingly solid citizens that get turned down for placement. If the children are placed outside of family care, it is unlikely that you will be able to see them. Aging grandparents are not seen as permanent placements by some social workers. If there are health issues that will also be taken into consideration. They also dislike single people although that varies by county and social worker. Depending on the home study worker (the person who comes to your home, interviews you and looks at your surroundings) they may have religious discrimination related questions.  Do NOT do the "God" thing. It will not help you and might even hurt your case. They are of the opinion that religious people beat their kids and force them against their will to go to church. They also may be concerned about women being "submissive" if they are a feminist.  Try to interview the interviewer about themselves before they start questioning you. I was grilled about whether or not I would let my grandson have religious freedom. This of course, is a trick question. Most of us would prefer that they not join a cult that kills animals for blood sacrifices. And smoking....they hate smokers but they love  pharmaceuticals and people who are willing to drug kids up. Do they get a kickback? Sort of. When a child is deemed "special needs" the federal subsidy greatly increases and the pharmaceutical companies are more than generous with elected officials who turn a blind eye to the public health crisis these companies are creating..

The State of Washington hates guardianships but if your adult child needs a considerable amount of time to pull themselves together but not forever, I think this is a viable option.  The best option is informal placement. Know that the State (if they approve of you and only 1/3 pass their tests) agrees that it is in the best interest of the child(ren) to live with you that there is some financial help. It can be painless or extremely difficult and I cannot predict what your situation will be. If you have a problem free life and always have, your bout with the State may be an easy one.  Everyone else, expect to go through hell unless for some reason they just really want to place the children with you.

Time is a critical component in this charade.  DO NOT let a foster family have too much time with a child because a judge may come up with the line: "I am sorry Mr. and Mrs. Jones, but the children are no longer bonded to you and they have a good home with the foster family who want to adopt." Bye bye children. If they are placed with a foster adopt family, know that the resistance to placement with you may quadruple. I think most extended family are not proactive.  In other words, the children are taken, extended family don't know what to do and just kind of sit around in a daze.

I do not support family division and wedges driven between grandparent and adult child. Expect attitudes that suggest that this is required.  If there is a huge wedge, it is less likely that you will disobey their rules and they really don't want people disobeying their rules.  Recently a grandmother on the East side of the mountains had her wayward son come up and knock on the door. Mind you she didn't open it but a neighbor saw him go to the door and called CPS. They came and removed the children the next day. Unfair? You betcha. Welcome to the world of child abduction.

Grandparents and extended family have varying levels of involvement with relative's children. Some have a high level of commitment and feel strongly about keeping the lineage together. Others may be more disconnected and resent the imposition but still consider family placement. The sense of loss will clearly vary, but for those who are deeply involved, the trauma is beyond words. In the deepest, darkest hour, I had case workers look at me with a smug, self satisfied expression as they informed me I had no rights. This surprised me because never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that the United States Government would turn on families in this nation and take pride in it! Yet this is the state of the Union, and only those who have found themselves on the wrong side of justice knows only too well the condition of the heart of man.

The majority of grandparents who contact me are those who CPS is giving a hard time. I wish I had an easy solution, but I do not. I was pretty willing to do anything it took, including picketing, letter writing, contacting legislators, crawling all up and down CPS hierarchy, reading everything I could get my hands on etc. and learned everything the hard and time consuming way. Many get overwhelmed by the intricate and complex process at the hands of officials and give up. I began studying their system looking for weaknesses and  I am finding a few, but the required actions are never simple. The paradigm shift that the "child savers" create within the family unit changes the individuals forever. An awakening occurs and for the first time, many see their country, its inhabitants, and their own family structure with new eyes and broadened understanding.

Two years ago if someone would have told me I was going to be a registered lobbyist and spend the rest of my life fighting for justice, I would have poo pooed the accuser. My own commitment couldn't be higher yet I can't do it all by myself. It takes willing persons ready to make significant sacrifices to change this overbearing, vast system of controllers who fancy themselves to be heros. Of what, I do not know, but they really are committed to taking people's kids and selling them to willing foster/adopts and bragging about it amongst their peers during cocktail hour. What a bunch of sick freaks.

The lower courts couldn't be more corrupt and any hoped for success has to be in the higher courts where they are more likely to follow the law as designed. The lower courts make up rules as they go along and work as a "team" although CPS controls it all. Don't put too much stock in what you hear at the lower levels. Prepare and educate yourself for the battle of a lifetime. Perhaps some reading this hadn't planned on a legal education, yet there is no other way. Every individual coming against this system has to learn and learn quickly all the terms, their rights and priviledges, what a motion, stay and appeal process is, who the players are and their functions, and how to best utilize that information with the right amount of pressure in strategic places. Each must learn to document and become keen observers of the court room drama avoiding the dangerous pitfalls of a system gone awry.

WHAT WE BELIEVE:

Back in the early 1600s, English rule developed a concept called "Parens Patriae" or Parent of the Country." The laws contained under Parens Patriae gave royalty sovereign control of the family.  While many were escaping the tyranny of England and fleeing to a new country, some concepts were reinstituted into our own laws and have mushroomed into a comprehensive system whose tenacles reach deep into the very heartbeat of the legal system.

What started out as child protection against abuse, has now demonstrated a power base that violates democracy and freedom. Careful examination of nationwide protocol reveals a monopoly that is full of self interest, breeds laws that take away the rights of The People, and is tearing up families and lineage in all fifty states.  Because of the propagation of implementing laws that are full of self interest and preservation, The People have very little immediate recourse.

In Washington State this is especially true from the beginning stages of receiving phone calls to the end stages of adoption or re-unification. The laws state that once the original problems are resolved, then the child(ren) should be returned home.  What Child Protective Services does, is they expand services needed into a full scale multidimensional application that may or may not have anything to do with the complaints. In regards to my Grandson for example, there were two areas of complaints that could be related to life skills and poverty - neither of which were addressed in the beginning.  A lot of other things were addressed, however. Did they need the other services? I don't know DOES someone need three parenting classes?

Herein lies the problem - following laws as stated.  The laws in Washington State regarding CPS leaves a tremendous amount of subjective freedom on the part of the State and all associated agencies. Extended family is silenced (of course, the writer is finding ways around that) and the family is relieved of most authority once in the system. Advocacy is limited to attorneys who may or may not be supportive of clients, working as a "team" with the CPS and judicial system. Some rights aren't explained as a matter of course and public education is virtually non-existant.

One extended family in Pierce County obtained removed children in less than 24 hours after their removal in September without background checks required by law.  Other extended family find themselves fighting for months and years through red tape and hidden agenda. The system does what the system wants to do and is supported by the "team" and laws created in self interest.

Child Protective Services (Children's Administration) is in bed with the judicial system further solidifying the Parens Patriae concept and leaving families vulnerable. The court was designed to protect the rights and laws of the people but through selective information revealed to the judges and believed hook line and sinker, twisted truths and lies quickly become "truth" and acted upon with gusto. If a case manager brings false or misleading information into a courtroom and the truth is uncoverered, there is no consequence. It is all part of the "game" and the judges are often both victims and perpetrators of a corrupt system.

MISSION

Washington State Extended Families is dedicated to the belief that the family in its entirety is sacred and Higher Power driven. There is a moral obligation to respect spiritual and natural law regarding lineage and core family, understanding the value of the three dimensions passing from generation to generation. The laws in the United States should reflect that value not just in written content, but in actions that promote freedom and democracy. WSEF is committed to challenging the Parens Patriae system of command and all the laws contained therein that endangers the family as a system based on our Constitution and the promise of freedom and justice. This will be done through education, referal, combined efforts, peaceful assembly and due process all afforded The People under the law.

Extended Family Did You know:

• That if the State does not like you for any reason, this might be the end of your contact with the children?
• They can take their time deliberately NOT moving the case towards relative placement?
• Once the child(ren) are in custody, the State does NOT have to let you see them and loves to tell you that?
• Grandparents and all other relatives have no rights unless you are a party to the case and to become a party to the case it may cost thousands in legal fees?
• That the laws and policies/ procedures regarding CPS gives them all the power and you none?
• There is very little public education BEFOREHAND as to the process leaving the public vulnerable?
• That many well meaning people call CPS just to discover that all family members might lose and CPS is NOT their friend?
• Statistics prove that children do NOT fair better in foster care and may find themselves in dangerous situations?
• That the State will lie about how the children are doing in foster care and cover up foster care actions?
• FBI checks are required and taking up to three months to process?
• Even legislators may be powerless to do anything about it because of the laws?
• The Attorney General represents and is in total support of CPS and will DO NOTHING to help you?
• Once the family is destroyed its destroyed!
• If the children live in filthy conditions there is no programming available to assist the parents with change?
• They are trying to hire 400 more workers to take children, manage them, and market them to adoptive parents?

For these reasons and many, many others, it is critical to know your options and lack of them, developing a plan of action that does not include the State of Washington until this process is changed.  It is true that some situations require legal and perhaps immediate solutions, but most can be avoided.

CPS Alternatives, Education and Consultant Services can assist you with important decisions regarding your family and often eliminate the need for costly legal action through mediation, education and referral.

For an initial free phone consultation please contact the email below:

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